Let us pause.
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Today, one of our children turns ten.
And with that,
something becomes visible
that is easy to miss in everyday life.
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Time is not just passing.
It is shaping.
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There is a moment,
when being a parent
stops being only about doing.
And becomes about reflecting.
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What am I actually passing on?
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Not in words.
But in patterns.
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How do I respond under pressure?
How do I speak about others?
How do I handle closeness,
distance,
conflict?
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Because what children experience repeatedly
becomes their internal reference.
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And often,
without noticing,
we repeat something.
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The way we were spoken to.
The way we were seen.
The way emotions were handled.
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Some of it carries.
Some of it needs to change.
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And that is where something shifts:
From reacting
to choosing.
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What do I want to keep?
What do I want to do differently?
Where do I need to grow?
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Not to become perfect.
But to become aware.
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Later today,
we’ll sit in a theatre.
Watching a story about moving forward
by letting go.
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And maybe that’s the quiet truth underneath it all.
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Being a mother (or father)
often feels like moving forward
by holding on to something
that is already learning to move on.
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Not controlling.
Not fixing.
But staying connected.
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So maybe the question is not:
“Am I giving everything she needs?”
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But:
“What am I showing her about how to live?”
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If this resonates, just reply.
Miriam & Jasper